You’re a writer. Therefore, you are a depressed starving artist who survives on whiskey.
Myths. Stereotypes. Assumptions. The notion that not only are these things connected with writers, but that they are actually necessary for a person to be a good writer is harmful.
Originally published at The Oxford Editors
Nobody likes rejection. Nobody approaches a crush and thinks, I really hope they shoot me down! It’s tough to put yourself on the line, and that’s exactly what you’re doing every time you submit your writing. Your work is a piece of you, and having your writing rejected often feels like being rejected as a person—like being told, You’re not good enough. So how do you deal with that? It’s extremely difficult, especially in an industry often approached by insiders and outsiders as a pipe dream. Wow, you really think you can be published someday? Good luck!
As a writer, rejection and failure are not possibilities—they are absolute certainties. And how you deal with them will make or break your career. Here are some tips for facing rejection and using it to drive your success!
Like many, I grew up throwing plastic poké balls at Beanie Babies. So it’s no surprise that I’m addicted to Pokémon Go. In fact, it’s on my iPhone screen right now. There’s an evasive Seadra in the area.
Just kidding! The servers are down.
While the eight-year-old wannabe Pokémon trainer in me connects with the game, so does the writer in me. Parts of the Go experience mimic the storytelling experience.
Most of you know about my recent concussion. Here’s the short version:
I took a blow to the helmet during softball practice, a week and a half before opening day of my senior season. My trainer expected the concussion to last two weeks, max. Instead it lasted four months. The injury stripped away my entire identity. I couldn’t read, write, or understand words that were spoken to me. I couldn’t turn on lights or walk across the room. I couldn’t be around another person without feeling paranoid and clawing at my hands. Speaking was difficult, and during attacks I came to refer to as “flooding,” I couldn’t speak at all. I would spend hours curled in a ball, unable to move, breathe without intense effort, or convey (or even understand myself) what was wrong.
It’s difficult for me to even use the word injury because what happened to me was so far beyond physical. I can never truly explain to another person what it felt like.
That’s a problem.
Let me tell you why.
July is the month of the writer.
Or at least July 2016 certainly is. There are so many challenges happening right now. You know the ones—the “write every day” challenges. I am a huge proponent of writing every day. Yes, sometimes you need a break. Yes, sometimes your WIP will start biting you and pulling your hair if you don’t give it some rest. But maybe you take that time away from your novel to work on a short story. Or maybe you write a blog post or a letter. Writing is a skill, just like anything else, and it needs to be practiced.